There is a profundity to the second sentence in this passage that many overlook, or seem not to notice, but that nevertheless applies to everyone who has ever had to forgive, let go, and unburden themselves of resentments, past wrongs done to them, and the individuals responsible: “And the Lord restored Job’s losses when he prayed for his friends.”
The only ones to
receive instruction regarding Job praying for them were his three friends. We
are never told that God also went to Job to instruct him to pray for them, nor
that He commanded Job to do so. God left it up to Job whether he would pray for
his three friends, but by the same token, God restored Job’s losses only when
he prayed for his friends. That reality is deeper than many perceive or
understand.
Forgiveness was
Job’s final test. I’ve looked at this passage, pondered it, meditated upon it,
and it’s the only conclusion I can come to. Before everything could be restored
to him, Job had one final hurdle, one last action he must undertake, and that
was to forgive.
Like all his
other testing, God was silent on the matter. He didn’t hint at what Job should
do; He just sent his friends to be prayed for, and waited to see what would
come of it. Job already knew what the right thing was; now he just had to
follow through and release any latent bitterness that might still be present in
his heart.
It’s far easier
to tell someone else they must forgive than to go through the process of
forgiveness yourself. Not merely saying you’ve forgiven someone, not simply
speaking words, but actually doing it in your heart, when no resentment or
bitterness remains for the way you were treated, or the things that were
falsely said about you.
Unless you’ve
lived in a bubble all your life, or aren’t old enough to ride in a car without
a car seat, we’ve all been mistreated, spoken evil of, or mischaracterized at
some point. Doubly so if you happen to be in the public eye, are in some type
of ministry, or have a large circle of acquaintances you interact with
regularly.
To many,
especially in our hyper-sensitive day and age when we’ve invented terms such as
microaggression and unconscious bias, what Job’s friends did would be unforgivable.
This wasn’t an arched eyebrow or some perceived slight. They came out and
accused him of wickedness deserving of his loss, pain, and situation, and
concluded that he wasn’t suffering enough. He should be grateful that after
losing all his worldly possessions, his children, his health, the respect of
his spouse, and the abandonment of those he once deemed loyal, he still wasn’t
getting what he deserved; for had he been, it would have been far worse. How
could it have been worse? His friends never elaborated, but they were certain
that it would have been.
All this while
Job knew himself to be innocent, and more importantly, God knew him to be
innocent. It wasn’t making a mountain out of a molehill; there was no molehill
to begin with. Every accusation brought against him had been wholly fabricated;
everything hinged on the theory of causation, wherein, since Job was suffering,
he must have been guilty of wickedness because he was suffering.
Anyone believing this
was an easy thing to forgive or get over has never gone through something similar,
but as one who has, let me assure you, it’s not as easy as one might think.
Even so, unless you enjoy the weight of a mountain pressing down on you, you
must do your utmost to forgive those who have wronged you because only then
will the peace and light of joy burn away the bitterness, frustration, anger,
angst, and resentment.
I can speak on
this because I’ve lived it. Not once, but multiple times, and every time, true
peace came about only when I determined in my heart to forgive those who had
wronged me. No, I didn’t show up to their door informing them that they’d been
forgiven; they never asked for forgiveness, but it wasn’t about them and me; it
was about me and God, my relationship with Him, and the attitude I knew I must
exhibit as one of His children.
The issue was not
about whether Job could ever restore his relationship with his three friends;
it was about the attitude of his heart toward the God he served. When God sent
the three to ask Job to pray for them, it wasn’t so much a test of their
obedience as a test of Job’s heart.
Why do I say
this? Because if God ever spoke to me and said His wrath had been stirred
against me, and I must go and ask another whom I’d judged wrongly for prayer
lest I be dealt according to my folly, it wouldn’t really be a choice. It
wouldn’t be about doing the right thing, but about doing what I needed to do to
ensure that I did not incur God’s wrath.
Job, on the other
hand, had no vested interest in praying for his three friends, other than the
rightness of his heart and the awareness that it would be pleasing in the sight
of the Lord. He did the right thing because it was the right thing to do, even
if in light of what had transpired they were undeserving of his kindness or
prayer.
Matthew 6:14-15, “For
if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive
you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father
forgive your trespasses.”
We do not forgive
only when we deem someone was apologetic enough, humble enough, or when they’ve
asked for forgiveness enough times. We forgive knowing that when we do, we are
likewise forgiven by our heavenly Father.
If you deem yourself
so righteous as to never require forgiveness, then by all means, don’t forgive,
ever, no matter how small or insignificant the matter. But if you know yourself
to be in need of forgiveness from your heavenly Father, then be quick to
forgive, without delay or recrimination.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.